Hey! How come every article about German Chancellor Angela Merkel has to mention that she’s childless? Does every article about President Obama mention that he has two kids? No. Does every mention of media billionaire Oprah Winfrey preface her name with the word “childless”? No, and why should it? It’s irrelevant. Surely Merkel has other qualities. When she was running for election the first go-round, women protested that she couldn’t possibly understand the needs of families–couples with children–because she didn’t have any of her own. Come on. She doesn’t live in a bubble. Do the women on our U.S. Supreme Court have children? I don’t know. I don’t care. What matters is their ability to do the job. So let’s leave Angela alone. Besides, sticking an adjective in front of a name is just bad writing.
I discovered the Childless Stepmums Forum, an online group based in the UK for women who have stepchildren but no biological children. Check it out for some fun chatter. Two other groups have grabbed my attention: Stepdivas and the Childless Stepmoms forum at the SecondWives Club. It’s tricky raising someone else’s kids when you’ve never had your own, but it helps if you can share your thoughts with someone who understands. Take a look.